By admin 
We have thoughts all day long. About people, about situations, about the way someone lives, about what is right and wrong, and occasionally about that one person who really should know better by now.
And very often we say them.
Say, say, say.
We call it honesty. I am only saying what I think. And there is nothing wrong with honesty. But perhaps honesty doesn’t require every thought to be given a voice.
There is a tiny space between having a thought and expressing it. Most of the time we hardly notice it. Yet that little space contains an extraordinary freedom: we can choose.
We can ask ourselves: Why do I want to say this?
Is it useful? Is it kind? Does something really need to be said? Am I sharing, or am I trying to change the other person? And perhaps the most interesting question of all: What would happen if I simply didn’t say it?
That isn’t suppression. It isn’t walking on eggshells or becoming someone who never speaks their mind. It is discovering that having a thought doesn’t create an obligation to deliver it to somebody else.
Sometimes we don’t even need words to influence one another. We see how someone lives, how they behave, how they treat people, and something in us responds. No lecture was necessary. No correction was given. Example can speak very quietly.
This is where a little inner silence can change everything.
Perhaps I don’t know what this means.
Such a simple thought. And such an enormous relief.
We don’t have to swallow our words. We don’t have to become endlessly agreeable. And we certainly don’t have to smile lovingly while silently wanting to strangle somebody. That is not inner peace; that is excellent acting. 
We can speak when speaking feels right. We can disagree. We can say no. We can even have a passionate discussion.
But we can also discover that silence isn’t losing.
Sometimes love speaks.
Sometimes love listens.
Sometimes love simply lets another person have their own life, their own house, their own opinions and even their own mess.
And perhaps wisdom is slowly learning the difference, because peace doesn’t require us to stop thinking. It begins when we discover that not every thought needs to become a word, and not every word needs to become a discussion.
Sometimes nothing more needs to be said.
And in that silence, something much simpler was waiting all along.
Peace.
With love and light,
G