By Gonny 
We all know the feeling: the world seems to be getting more chaotic every day. Crisis here, conflict there, people who always think they know better, and of course, the grocery line that suddenly stops moving just when you’re in a hurry. But what if I told you that the real chaos isn’t “out there,” but in your own world? And that there’s actually a structure within that chaos?
Bashar recently said: “Find the structure in chaos, and you can resolve it.” Sounds great, but how? The answer lies in discovering your personal fractal.
Fractals: Chaos with a Recognizable Pattern
A fractal is a repeating pattern that looks the same on different levels. Think of a tree: a large branch splits into smaller branches, which then divide again, and no matter how much you zoom in, the shape remains familiar. The Sierpiński Triangle is an example of this—a never-ending pattern of triangles within triangles.
Just like that triangle, our personal chaos also has an underlying structure. We think things happen randomly, but when we look closely, we see that certain situations, emotions, and reactions keep repeating themselves. They may seem “new” each time, but in reality, they are just repeating the same pattern buried deep within our beliefs.
Example 1: Sensitivity to Criticism
Someone—we’ll call him Carl—grew up hearing that he was “too sensitive.” He often felt offended by criticism, and people would tell him he was overreacting. As an adult, he realizes that he still gets irritated whenever someone corrects him, even when it’s meant to help.
The Fractal:
• First experience: As a child, he perceived criticism as an attack.
• Repetition: As an adult, he still feels personally targeted.
• Automatic response: Irritation, defensiveness.
Breaking the Fractal:
By recognizing that this is an old pattern, Carl can pause and ask himself: “Am I reacting to this person, or to my past?” Once he sees the pattern, he can stop automatically reacting and choose a different response.
Example 2: Feeling Like Space is Being Taken Away
William had a younger brother who, one day, suddenly moved into his bedroom. William accepted it, but deep down, he felt like his personal space had been invaded. Now, years later, he realizes that he constantly gets irritated when people “invade his space”:
• A cyclist rides too close.
• A pedestrian doesn’t move aside.
• A car cuts him off in traffic.
The Fractal:
• First experience: His little brother took up space in his room.
• Repetition: In everyday life, he feels the same kind of intrusion.
• Automatic response: Anger and irritation.
Breaking the Fractal:
William realizes that he is not actually angry at these people, but at the old feeling of having his space taken away. The next time someone walks too close, he can pause and think: “Oh, there’s my old fractal again. My space isn’t really being threatened.” And in that moment of awareness, the trigger loses its power.
The Triangle of Chaos in Your Own Life
The real chaos is not in global crises but in your own, repeating beliefs. Can you recognize your own triangle?
1) What situations keep happening in your life?
2)What emotions or beliefs are behind them?
3) What is the smallest triangle of this pattern? (The first experience that created it.)
This is exactly what A Course in Miracles means by: “Projection makes perception.” What you experience in the world is a reflection of the beliefs you hold onto. As long as you don’t see your fractal, it seems like the world is constantly “attacking” you. But once you recognize the structure of your chaos, the illusion disappears.
Looking at Your Own Triangle with Humor and Love
So next time you get angry at a car that cuts you off, or irritated when someone criticizes you, smile and think: “Oh, there’s my fractal again! Time to draw a new triangle.”
Chaos isn’t random. It’s a pattern. And once you see it, you have the power to break it.
With love and light,
G.