By Gonny (A question ACIM students know better than anyone)
Helping sounds so noble. Someone is struggling…someone is sick…someone shares their trauma online. And instantly, something in us stirs: Should I say something? Share what I’ve learned? Offer a Course-based perspective?
The ego immediately puts on its kindest mask and whispers: This is love. This is caring. This is good.
But let’s try to look deeper.
The Course teaches that what we see is never the real problem. Not the illness, not the heartbreak, not the story.
All of it is a projection…our own.
And our brother, no matter how he appears, is always the perfect mirror for our own mind. We don’t heal others by fixing their dream, but by waking up from ours.
True help, says the Course, comes not from judgment (even disguised as concern), but from joining. We join with the Light in our brother, not with his illusion. We don’t have to deny the form, but we do deny its power to define the truth.
So when someone tells us about their f.e. MS diagnosis, or their childhood trauma, the ego wants to fix. But the Holy Spirit asks only one thing:
See them as whole.
Remember who they really are.
And ask: What would Love have me do?
Sometimes Love says: “Say nothing, just hold the space.”
Sometimes Love says: “Yes, share what helped you.”
But Love never says: “Convince them.”
And this brings us to another kind of helping…one that many Course students and teachers know intimately: writing and talking
Many of us share Course-based reflections, lessons, or loving reminders on Facebook or blogs. We do this every day, or almost. And then, every now and then, a little question may creeps in:
Is this really useful?
Isn’t this still form? Still illusion?
Am I helping, or just talking to myself in a prettier language?
The answer is tender. The Course reminds us: Teaching is a process of learning.
And what we share, we are reinforcing for ourselves. So when we write,
not to teach the world, but to remember for ourselves….that is holy.
Even if no one clicks “like.”
Even if no one reads.
Even if the world truly has no meaning.
Because in the moment we sit down, still our mind, and open to what wants to come through, we say to the Holy Spirit: Use me. Remind me.
And He does.
So, to help or not to help? There’s no fixed rule. No right or wrong.
But we can ask: Is this coming from love, or from fear?
Am I trying to fix, or to join?
Do I need results, or am I simply willing to be available?
If we write or talk with joy, we remember. If we share from stillness, we teach peace.
And when it’s time to be silent, we’ll know.
And maybe….just maybe…the most helpful thing we can ever do…
is to remember who we really are.
And smile. 
With love and light,
G.