By Gonny 
A soft look at justification, guilt, and the quiet way home
Sometimes we do something that doesn’t feel quite right.
We nudge a decision, suggest a shortcut, whisper an idea that might tilt the outcome in our favor. And then….someone notices.
Uh-oh.
We feel… caught.
That old ego reflex kicks in fast: “It’s not my fault.” “I didn’t say anything!”
“He made the choice, not me.” Or even: “I deserve it. I’ve done so much for him.”
Now let’s flip the scene.
We witness someone else doing something that feels… unfair.
We feel irritation, frustration, maybe even a twinge of righteous anger.
Words rise: “How sneaky.” “That’s just not okay.”
But if we pause….truly pause….and look deeper, we might see not
a villain, but a frightened child in grown-up clothes.
Because behind every act of unfairness lives a mistaken belief.
A belief in lack. In unworthiness. In the need to grasp, manipulate, or take,
just to feel like we matter.
As A Course in Miracles says:
“You are not upset for the reason you think.” (W-5)
And neither is the one who acted out.
So what do we do when we feel wronged?
Do we demand an apology? Do we wait for them to say,
“Yes, I was wrong”?
It’s natural to want justice. It’s understandable to crave repair.
But here’s the tricky thing: When we need an apology to feel whole again,
we’ve made our peace dependent on someone else’s awakening.
And that gives our power away.
A much gentler way is to open a door.
Not a courtroom door, but a quiet invitation:
“You don’t have to defend yourself with me. If you see it was a mistake, you’re free to choose again. And if not, that’s okay too. I’ll hold the light until you’re ready.”
This is radical honesty, not with words but with presence.
And yes, it’s rare, because the world teaches that mistakes must be punished. But A Course in Miracles teaches that mistakes only ask for correction…in the Mind.
“Do not confuse a mistake with a sin. Mistakes call for correction, not punishment.” (T-19)
Always remember: “I am as God created me.” (W-110), and so are they.
See the mistake, but do not bind it to guilt.
Let it float to the surface,
and allow the Holy Spirit to gently whisper:
“This was not love. Let Me help you choose again.”
Forgiveness is not forgetting. It is remembering who you are and letting others remember too.
With love and light,
G.