Lies

Let’s be honest (as much as possible in an article about lies): everyone lies. Sometimes it’s subtle “nice dress!”, while secretly thinking “that looks like a curtain from the ’70s.” Other times, it’s bigger: I definitely didn’t forget our appointment but I had to go to the doctor and I forgot my phone, I couldnt call you.

The biggest lies are often the ones we tell ourselves. We create stories about who we are, what we are capable of, and what we deserve, we make ourselves special…more important then we think to be.

We want others to see things our way. We want to be right, and if someone doesn’t agree, we help the truth a little by saying : you are the only one thinking different or worse…you are lying!

According to ACIM, the need to lie is an ego trap. The ego wants to win, to be superior, to convince others. But truth isn’t a competition! It doesn’t matter whether someone accept your version of reality or not.

In the world, we see some lies as worse than others. But ACIM teaches something radical: all illusions are equal because they all stem from the ultimate illusion of separation.

But what if someone always lies?

A chronic liar often has an identity problem: they believe the truth is not enough and create a fabricated version of themselves. This leads to self-deception, inner confusion, and a deep sense of unease.

There’s a movie about lies: ‘The invention of lying.’

In this (movie) world no one could lie. People said exactly what they thought. “You have a terrible singing voice,” or “I don’t love you, but I don’t want to be alone, so let’s get married.” Honest, yes. But is that really better? Would the world be a better place? Or is the art of not-always-telling-the-truth actually a form of love? Sometimes we withhold things out of kindness; sometimes we bend the truth to protect someone. But if we fully lived in truth—not the world’s truth, but the truth of love….lies would become unnecessary.

A Course in Miracles teaches that truth is unchangeable, love is real, and fear is an illusion. Lies are an attempt to create an alternate reality, one that isn’t rooted in love, but in fear. But ACIM also teaches: forgive yourself, and forgive others. So the only real solution is forgiveness—not as an excuse, but as the realization that lies only seem necessary when you believe you are separate from love. In truth, there is nothing to hide, because love never needs to hide anything.

So, next time someone asks, “How do you like my dress?”, you might just say:

“I think you are more beautiful than any dress could ever be.”

No lies. Just a small miracle.

With love and light,

G.

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