By Gonny 
Somewhere, deep down, we’re all searching for something. Love. Appreciation. Recognition. A pat on the back, a like, a smile, a compliment. And why? Because we want to feel special. Just a little more unique than the rest. A bit more spiritual, slightly wiser, or simply the funniest person at the party. Sound familiar?
In the world of form, which, as A Course in Miracles reminds us, is but a dream, specialness is a tempting candy. The ego presents it as something wonderful: you are different from others. Better, more beautiful, smarter, more sensitive, more awakened, more spiritual, lighter. But in that “being different,” lies a deep trap. Because in order to be special, we must first separate from others. And voilà: separation is born.
The Course calls specialness an attack on God. Not as punishment, not as judgment, just a simple observation: if I see myself as separate from you, I have chosen to be right instead of happy. And there it is again: the ego whispers that your happiness depends on how special you are….in the eyes of others.
But you know what’s truly special? Not being special at all. Not needing to stand out. Not needing to win or lose. No more playing roles. No more competition. No more comparison. Just being love. Love doesn’t know hierarchy. Love doesn’t make anyone special. Love unites.
The Holy Spirit gently reminds us that what truly connects us is our shared equality. Not a dull uniformity, but a radiant awareness in which no one stands above or below anyone else. Not “I’m more spiritual than you,” but: “I see myself in you.” No need for secret talents. No grand mission. Just the simplicity of Being.
And yes, we’re sometimes proud of our accomplishments and that’s okay. The Course doesn’t ask us to hate the world, but to no longer take it seriously. With a smile, we watch our ego shout, “Look how special I’ve become in my humility!” and we lovingly laugh along.
Specialness is a burden. Because once you’ve become special, you have to keep it up. It takes effort, defense, comparison. But just being who you are, no bells and whistles, that’s freedom.
And so, we return to the peace that was never far, but always within us. We only need to choose: do I want to be special, or do I want to be happy
“Specialness makes love impossible, for love is extension, and specialness is contraction.”
A Course in Miracles, T-24.II.4
Being love. And honestly… that’s already pretty special.
With love and light,
Gonny